Need you to be extra touchy-feely (The key to relationships when you have depression)
Earlier on in our relationship, I pulled Kevin aside when we had a moment alone together in the kitchen. Friends were over.
“I need you to be extra touchy-feely, babe. Can you rub me on the back and check in to see how I’m doing? You do already do those things but I’m feeling anxious and I need them a bit more than usual tonight.”
“Sure, boo,” he said. My anxiety was at about a level 8ish. (How does one even measure feelings, anyway?)
These are the things that are good to relay to your partner regardless of your situation, but when you live with depression, this is particularly important. There needs to be explicit communication about how you’re feeling and what you need from your partner.